max-logic

4 September 2009

what's your number?

at 9/04/2009 08:47:00 pm | | labels: men, relationships, sex, women

Over at The Fly Guy Chronicles reading this post got me thinking about numbers...not telephone numbers (because realistically, who needs those anymore?) but the 'magic' number - how many sexual partners we've had. Probably one of the most influential pieces of information we share with a new love interest, the 'number' conveys a multitude of things about us....or does it?

I think this is one of the rare instances in which men are more arbitrary than women. Men seem to live and die by the number (or their perception of what the number is). Too high and she gets relegated to jump-off status, too low and...well, I'm not sure there is such a thing as too low in a man's book. Men seem to get off on the idea of being the conqueror and the trailblazer. Tell a man he's the first one to do ___ to you and watch his eyes light up like Christmas. Women, on the other hand, seem to use the number as an indication of the man's trustworthiness - the more he's been around the more likely he is to run around.

Now although I know it's a bad sign, I don't remember tell my number. Nor do I ask or encourage a man to tell me his. It's not even a matter of principle for me, it's not something that i ever think of...to me it's completely irrelevant and none of my business. But i have a feeling that this is one of those issues on which my thinking completely differs from everyone else's...

So c'mon tell me, what do you think?

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youngblackcareerwoman · 824 weeks ago

i agree that it is a touchy subject especially for women...fear of judgement...not being considered 'wife' material if too many. i think you don't need to discuss it..and bottom line we just want to know if the other person is a 'ho'

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Johnny From LiveAGL · 819 weeks ago

LOL the number games...I never really cared for that as a guy. For me I'm always living in the moment...regardless if I'm the first or the 10th, does it really matter except for the fact that we enjoy each other's company? First of all a girl with a higher number would probably be wicked in the pleasing department, or at least I'd hope so (like why are u increasing your numbers if you're not taking anything away from it...smh...LOL).

On the other hand a girl that's been with very few or no one at all might kill things for a dude. I've been with one and it seems like I was taking more time to teach her than her spending to please me...but I must say, what ever one sow one always reaps...after some time, all that teaching gave way to some of the best pleasures I've ever had in my life. So again I guess it all depends....but as for me the numbers have never really been something I cared about...HOWEVER, a female that's been associated with a lot of people in my circle is a no no....I probably wouldn't even bother.