Any 10 on Tuesday with Melissa

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It's Tuesday and that means it's time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions. This week we're talking to the lovely Melissa; who I think wins the prize for most frequent commenter on this blog. I have the pleasure of knowing her in real life but for those of you who don't, here are her 10 answers.

Ready? Let's begin.

Describe yourself in three sentences or less:

I like surprising people. I'm probably more cultured and well-rounded than anyone really knows, or that I let on. I love my dog.

1. Thong or boyshorts?

Both. A girl's gotta have options for any occasion. Funny thing though...I didn't start wearing thongs until a few years ago because I couldn't mentally accept the fact that they could be comfortable.

2. Could you be in a relationship that is not monogamous? Why or why not?

No, I could not. If I were to do it, I’d feel guilty and like I wouldn't be giving either person enough of me. And just thinking about the person I’m into being the way he is with me with someone else would make me very upset.

3. If you were alone in your boy/girlfriend’s house, would you snoop?

No. that's the epitome of insecure, something I try not to be. Plus...what if I got caught?!

4. What is your favourite sexual position?

I like them all, but I really like the feeling of a man on top of me. Makes me feel like I’m with a man, which in turn makes me feel more like a woman.

5. Blow job or hand job?

Blow job. I really don't understand handjobs. They seem so lazy and half assed. And more work.

6. What is your most embarrassing sexual experience?

Any time blood is involved, it's embarrassing (and gross....but it happens! sometimes it's a surprise!). But the funniest time was when my dog jumped on the bed and started humping the dude's leg. Dude shook my dog off, sending him flying into the wall. My poor dog. I felt so bad for him.

7. Which habit of yours most annoys the people you date?

Not just the people I date, but friends in general all hate the fact that I don't like making decisions. it doesn't mean I can't...I’m a lot more easy going than other people, so I just like them to make the decisions so that I don't get blamed for making the wrong one.
8. What’s the first thing you notice in a man/woman?

Friendly eyes, a genuine smile, height, overall attractiveness.

9. How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

I think it's normal to want it all the time. To me, it's strange not to want it.

10. Do you know what a dirty sanchez is?

Yes...and ew.

What say you about the questions and answers? Weigh in, discuss, heckle, what have you in the comments. And if you're interested, you can see the questions she didn't answer here.

Any 10 on Tuesday with Dr. Jay

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It's Tuesday and that means it's time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions. And of course I couldn't have a series where other people drop their knowledge without including the most knowledgable man in the world, the indomitable Dr. Jay. He even answered all 30 questions instead of choosing just 10, because he's that kind of dude.

Ready? Let's begin.

Describe yourself in three sentences or less.

If someone asked you who I was, here's how I would like you to reply, "he's entertaining and provocative."  It's hard to tell when he's being serious, or just joking, but he's always thought-provoking.  Plus, the brother is fine.

1. Is there something about your life or lifestyle that makes your perspective on dating/relationships unique?

I believe in continuous improvement.  I never stop trying to improve my relationship from the minute i'm in it.  I work at it daily, even when there are no problems or issues on the horizon.

2. To what extent are you willing to adapt this lifestyle to that of your partner?

Naturally the partnership of two people is going to cause for some adaptation on the part of both of us.  I'm not willing to change the very essence of myself.

3. Thong or boyshorts?

I thought about this the other day because i'm a fan of boy shorts, but I really love thongs.  I will just be straight up.

4. Could you be in a relationship that is not monogamous? Why or why not?

Yes, but I wouldn't call that girl my girlfriend.  She'd just be referred to my #1.

5. True or false: it is rude for a man not to call the woman the day after he slams for the first time.

True, that's just rude.  One caveat, a text message is cool.

6. If you were alone in your boy/girlfriend’s house, would you snoop?

Nope, that's just not my style.

7. What is your favorite sexual position?

Reverse cow-girl.

8. Name the most interesting place you have had sex.

In a park during the middle of the day.

9. Picture your most memorable partner in your mind and share what made that person so memorable.

She liked the Lakers.

10. Blow job or hand job?

If you're not using your hands when giving a blow job then you don't know what you're doing.

11. What is something you have always wanted to try, but haven’t yet?

Drawing a blank.

12. Best piece of relationship advice you’ve ever been given?

B*tches cheat, get over it.

13. What is your favorite thing to do to your partner? What is your favorite thing to have done to you?

I like to feed my partner. I like to get head.  (Not that those are independent or unrelated. LOL.)

14. What is the most sensitive spot on your body?

Pelvic area.

16. What is your most embarrassing sexual experience?

An unexpected squirter.

17. What’s your fatal flaw in relationships?

I'm a conservative socialist, lol.  I like my relationships to be a certain way, but at times, I think I need a change with the times.

18. If you had a super power what would it be? Why?

Ability to read minds.

19. What turns you on?

Thongs!

20. Which habit of your most annoys the people you date?

Being smarter than the average bear.

21. What would the title of your autobiography be?

If you let me, you won't regret me.

22. What’s the first thing you notice in a man/woman?

Her shoes.

23. How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

Hourly. (Is this my kind of dude or what?)

24. If your friend was cheating, would you tell their partner?

Hell no, respect the G code.

25. Name three famous wo/men you'd put a hurting on if you had the chance.

Eva Mendes, Michelle Rodriguez, Persia White

26. What qualities do the people you date tend to have in common?

They are unique.

27. Do you know what a dirty sanchez is?

Yes, and I will not do it to you, or have you do it to me.

28. Have you ever been caught masturbating?

Nope.

29. What are your must-have qualities in a partner?

If I said ambition would that be too cliche.  No, I would say vision.  The ability to see a goal worth having and achieve it.

30. What are your dealbreakers?

Stubborness and people who just are generally negative in life.

What say you about the questions and answers? Weigh in, discuss, heckle, what have you in the comments.

Any 10 on Tuesday with HLBB

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It's Tuesday and that means it's time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions, they answer any ten of them and you guys get to experience someone else's point of view for a change. This week we have one of my favourite people because she's just like me Ms. HLBB of Her Lil Black Book.

Ready? Let's begin.

Describe yourself in three sentences or less:

The undomestic diva. All around Jeopardy-like geek. A cynical romantic.

1. Is there something about your life or lifestyle that makes your perspective on dating/relationships unique?

I'm usually the confidant for people (I don't put their stories out there unless they ask me to though), so I hear both sides of the story quite often. 

2. To what extent are you willing to adapt this lifestyle to that of your partner?

If you're currently involved with me, you will not appear on the blog.

3. What is your current relationship status? Are you happy with it?

Single and enjoying it. I wouldn't shy away from a relationship, but I'm not really being proactive about it.

4. What are your must-have qualities in a partner?

Make me laugh. Make me think. Get me to try things I wouldn't normally (and that won't kill me)...you must be what I call a "lovable asshole" and not be intimidated by me. This one is a bit shallow, but I refuse to be with another man who can't dance.

5. What’s the stupidest thing you see women do in their relationships? The biggest mistake you see men making?

For both genders it's thinking that "all (insert gender here) all the same", by using that logic, you then are no different from anyone else are you? 

6. What is your fundamental relationship truth?

Trust me as you would your best friend, but do not make me your best friend.

7. What’s the #1 thing men/women don’t realize about themselves?

Women: there's a difference between truth and honesty.
Men: it's not about you. Really.

8. What’s your fatal flaw in relationships?

That I'm very much a hard-ass...I'm too honest.

9. What turns you on?

Intelligence. Wit. Humour. Badass-ness. Swagger. Dimples. A man that has rhythm.

10. Which habit of yours most annoys the people you date?

I'm not affectionate. 

11.What’s the first thing you notice in a man/woman?

Hands. What you're doing with them, grooming. But oddly enough, I don't look for the ring. The ring doesn't tell me you're committed, your actions do...

23. How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

Daily. Doesn't mean you're having it...but it means you want it.

What say you about the questions and answers? Weigh in, discuss, heckle, what have you in the comments. And if you're interested, you can see the questions she didn't answer here.

Any 10 on Tuesday

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So Throwback Tuesdays was getting a bit stale so I thought it was about time we did something new around here on Tuesdays. This week we start “Any 10 on Tuesdays” – each week I’ll ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions and they can answer any ten of them and you guys get to experience someone else's point of view for a change. Sound like fun? And because I just made up these questions five minutes ago it's my blog, I figured who better to start with than myself? Let's begin:

Describe yourself in three sentences or less:

Blogger. Bag lady. Weirdo. Advertising Nerd. Dirty Bird. Girly girl.

1. Is there something about your life or lifestyle that makes your perspective on dating/relationships unique?

I’m a blogger, and that scares the living daylights out of men. They live in fear of being written about…and sooner or later they usually are so I can’t even fault them for it.

2. To what extent are you willing to adapt this lifestyle to that of your partner?

If we were talking about an actual partner as in a serious boyfriend or a husband, I’d be willing to do a lot of adapting; for a casual thing; not so much. I mean, I’m not going to call anyone out of his name on here but if I’m given good material I will write about it…I have no choice!

3. What is your current relationship status? Are you happy with it?

I’m happily single…I love my hedonistic, max-centric lifestyle. I’d like to have a lot more sex few more dates but all things considered I’d say I’m doing alright.

4. What are your must-have qualities in a partner?

He must be smart. I will run rings around a dumb dude and that’s not fun for anybody.
He has to have good manners – you guys have heard me rant about that enough that I don’t need to say anything more.

5. What’s the stupidest thing you see women do in their relationships? The biggest mistake you see men making? 

The dumbest thing I see both genders do is letting pride or principles get in the way of peace. This is what we're doing when we're keeping score in our relationships, or when we're getting ultra-pissy over dumb shit like toilet seats, or when we refuse to apologize just because we're convinced we're right. It's basically like giving everything we've got to win a battle without even noticing that we're losing the war.

6. What is your fundamental relationship truth?

What goes on between a man and a woman is between that man and that woman. No matter what anyone else thinks, knows, or thinks they know; there are only two people who really see the truth of a relationship.

7. What’s the #1 thing men/women don’t realize about themselves?

Women – how much of what they say and do is driven by a need for validation. For men – how much of what they do and think is driven by ego.

8. What’s your fatal flaw in relationships?

I’m way too easy-going. I need to start kicking some ass!

9. What turns you on?

Dirty talk. Smarts. Confidence. Muscles. Beer breath. Big words.

10. Which habit of your most annoys the people you date?

Smoking!

11.What’s the first thing you notice in a man/woman?

Shoes. Or I should say shoes are the first thing that matters. I may not look at your shoes first but bad shoes will negate everything else.

23. How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

Daily during the week. 2 or 3 times on weekends.

Okay so I went a little overboard there...but I'm nothing if not extreme, you guys know this already. If anyone's interested, you can see the questions I didn't answer here.

What say you about the questions and answers? Weigh in, discuss, heckle, what have you in the comments.